Making a guest list should be given special attention in
preparing for the wedding ceremony. Before you start writing it, think about
what your wedding will be: large and grand, average in the number of guests or
in a chamber with a minimum number of guests? Given your wishes and financial
capabilities, you can go two ways:
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make a list, and then, knowing the number of
guests, to start planning a budget for the wedding. But keep in mind that the more
guests there are, the more expensive the celebration will be;
·
either initially decide on a budget, and on this
basis decide how many guests you are ready to invite
Who to invite to the wedding
When you decide on the number of guests, you can go to the
question of who exactly you want to see at the wedding.
Who really should be included in the
guest list:
·
closest relatives: parents, grandfathers,
grandmothers, sisters, brothers, godparents, and those relatives with whom you
really closely communicate;
·
good and close friends, which you will be really
happy to see at the celebration.
Whose candidates are worth
discussing:
·
distant relatives;
·
colleagues, fellow students;
·
old friends.
Remember that a wedding is your holiday and it may not make
sense to include in the guest list distant relatives with whom you do not see
and do not communicate, new acquaintances, as well as those relatives and
acquaintances you do not really want to see for some personal reason.
When making a guest list, keep in mind that, according to
etiquette, both married couples and single couples should be invited together.
It is also believed that spouses should be invited along with their children.
But, if you think that the little guests will be bored because you do not plan
to hire animators and prepare entertainment programs for them, it is better to
ask the guests to come to the celebration without kids.
Compilation and correction of the
list
It will be good if, after drawing up the initial list, you
postpone it for several days. During this time, you will be able to think it
over again, and then make some changes. You should not send invitations to
guests until the list is finalized and the date of the wedding is chosen
accurately. Guests in which you are sure to call 100% can be invited in advance
orally. After the list has been approved and the date of the wedding will be
known, it is better not to delay inviting guests, because they need to release
the wedding date in their calendar in advance, and non-resident guests should
plan the trip.
But be prepared that after receiving invitations, some of
your guests will report that they will not be able to come to the wedding. Then
you will have to re-adjust the list. It is advisable to make major changes to
it in advance, at least 2-3 weeks before the scheduled date of celebration.
If you use a convenient planner of the guest list , you can
simplify and speed up the whole process: you can easily make all changes, mark
who will come, who does not come or has not decided, keep all contacts in one
place and electronically send wedding invitations.
Useful tips
Most likely, when compiling the guest list, you will have
such a special category of guests, over whom you will think for a long time to
call, not to call. Especially for such cases, we have prepared a checklist of
questions that will help you understand the
importance of the presence of each of these guests :
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Do you often see this person?
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Is your fiancé / brides familiar with him?
·
How important is his presence at the wedding to
you?
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Would he welcome your invitation?
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Is this a positive person, will he spoil the
mood with his gloomy look?
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Are there any unpleasant consequences if I
invite him (I will not invite)?
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Do you plan to communicate with this person in
the future?
·
If this is a guest of a parent or relative, how
will parents react if you do not invite him? Are you ready to argue with your
parents?
Invite guests you really want to see during your holiday. Do
not call relatives or friends only from a sense of politeness or fear that they
will be offended without receiving an invitation. They can feel your
insincerity, which will ruin the mood for you and them a little.
When inviting nonresidents, it will be polite for you to
help with accommodation. If the banquet will be held in the restaurant at the
hotel, you can learn in advance about special offers and discounts on
accommodation. Foreign guests, in addition to assistance with accommodation,
may need assistance with obtaining a visa, and if the person does not speak
Russian, you should ask someone in advance to act as a guide and interpreter at
the wedding.
It is also important to consider the maximum number of
people that a selected restaurant can accept. Also, remember about the size of
your wedding budget. At the same time, you should not expect that the money
spent on each guest will pay off with his gift.
If you have planned a modest celebration in a narrow family
circle, then you should inform your relatives and friends in advance about your
plans, who may expect to receive an invitation to the wedding. This will help
you avoid embarrassing situations, resentment and frustration.
Perhaps you decide to hold in the environment of the closest
people only individual events, such as a wedding or painting. Then all other
guests need to clearly indicate where they are invited, for example, only at a
feast.
How to act in "difficult
cases"
When compiling the list it is important to take into account
the relations and connections of the guests. For example, if some of your
relatives are at odds with each other and there is a great risk that by finding
out the relationship they will spoil the whole mood of the celebration, it’s
better to invite one of the parties closer to the wedding, or not to invite any
of them.
If the parents of the bride or the bridegroom are divorced,
then we should be especially careful to invite them along with new spouses, the
appearance of which can cause undue attention and certain tension.
It is undesirable to invite your “former” to the wedding
celebration, so as not to stir up the past and spoil the mood on this important
day for your soulmate.
If there are relatives who, under the influence of alcohol,
can make scandals or fights, it is also worth thinking carefully before
including them in the guest list, even if they can be offended without
receiving an invitation from you.
When drawing up the list of invitees to the wedding, you
must remember that this is, first of all, your holiday, so it is up to you to
decide who you will see on it. The main thing is that surrounded by your guests
you can feel cozy and comfortable.
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